“For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body… And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell” (Jas. 3:2-6).

Do you know how many times you have been advised or being warned about what you say? Either you have seen or heard about someone who has put him or herself in trouble because of the wrong thing he/she says. Many lives have been troubled, many destinies have been altered or destroyed, and many lives have been cut short because they cannot control what they say.
The result of uncontrolled mouth and unguided utterances causes the body to be unbridled. By default, their whole body is activated to doing wickedly, thus putting their lives at risk against all kinds of onslaught of the devil.
If you have a running mouth that cannot be controlled, you are prone and vulnerable to any attack of the enemy. An attack of this sort is spiritual and not physical (Eph.6:12). It is not that someone will slap you to short you up, but there is always a payback later in life; by running your mouth anyhow, you are planting a seed, and whatever you sow, you shall reap.
What you say can shape your life or alter your destiny positively or negatively. Your utterance can shape you positively and save you in the day of adversity if it talks of the truth all the time. Contrary wise, it can shape your life negatively, destroy or kill you; especially, if all that your mouth speaks is falsehood and despising others.
Let your thought be aligned with the word of God, and then what you speak will be in line with the will of God. If you read and meditate on the word of God all the time, you will be guided by the Holy Spirit. What you say will flow out of your mouth in line with the will of God. You will be blessed because your mouth is guided and it speaks what commands blessing.
Contrary wise again, if you read and meditate all the time on magazines, books, movies, media shows and discusses of the ungodly, the sinners and the scornful of this world, your mouth becomes a pipe line running with ungodly talks, despising words, costly jokes, cursing, derogatory words, insulting and slur words (Ps 10:7). In this regard, what you say becomes a seed you have planted which you will reap in due season. If you despise, you will be despised; if you curse, you will be cursed; if you cast a costly joke, you will be satirized in a painful way, and so on; it never ends until you break that habit by being born again and rid yourself of the old habit.

How do I watch what I say?

• Be born again. Be not a Christian by mouth, but a changed person; riding yourself of the adamic nature which you have piled up from your parents, peers and the society (Rom. 12:2)
• Read and meditate on the word of God always; the word of God becomes the issue that flows out of your good heart, guided by the Spirit of God (Ps. 1:1-3; Lk. 6:45)
• Think before you talk so that you don’t commit a grievous error (Jas. 1:19)
• Avoid the seat of the scornful, that is the training ground for ungodly talks (Eph. 5:4)
• Dissociate from ungodly associates (relations, friends or co-workers) (2Cor, 6:14-18).
• Avoid any argument that can result to dissension; the shock absorber (degree of tolerance) in every human being varies. Always empathies with others, what you will not tolerate, don’t throw it at anybody (1Tim.6:3-5).

Watch what you say so that you don’t regret later that you have said it. Once the content is voiced out to the hearing of others it becomes pieces that cannot be put together again. What is done cannot be undone. It is better to think before you talk to avoid unprecedented trouble than to say something that will bring a lingering bitterness into your life; a repercussion of a careless talk that will continue to make you live a life of regret; “had I known I would have not said it”

By Lawrence Abitogun

Humanity is not complete without woman. Her role has been supportive to man and the growth of the society since creation. Even though her position was reduced from that of man in the day she disobeyed and listened to the ministration of the serpent in the Garden of Eden, whereby she caused the fall of man. However, that position has improved gradually through the cause of time, and now, she has proved herself to be up to the task of her role to be partner in progress with man.

Another dilemma facing women from ages is the stigma of negativism, associating her role as being an agent of enticement, seduction, pressure and urge, capable of luring man into ensnarement. From time in memorial, man has been falling victim to a woman’s plot – Sisera and Jael (Jug. 5:24-27); Samson and Delilah (Jug. 16:19); Jezebel (2Ki. 9:30), Athaliah etc.

However, this is not true of all women. Does this erase the good works of women in our society? No, despite the relegation of women’s role in the Bible, there are many women who serve as good examples for today’s women to emulate; courageous women who boosted the courage of their husband like the virtuous women praised in the book of Proverbs 31. We have women of faith who received the fulfillment of those things which they earnestly seek from God – Sarah, Hannah, Esther, Elizabeth etc. Also are women who were obedient and true worshipers of the living God – Deborah and Dorcas.

Esther: an example of a godly woman

For any woman who is a mother to excel to the point of being respected, being equal with man, being adored; to be called a virtuous mother; a mother to be honored, a mother to be remembered, who cut above the rest, she must possess the following characteristics found in Esther.
• Humble – not proud, she associated with her people, disregarding her position as a queen. She respected the person of her husband.
• Obedient – she was obedient to her instructor and to Mordecai
• Unselfish – she would not take credit for the secret Mordecai discovered.
• Caring – a woman of great concern for the condition of her people; seeking the good and peace of others.
• Law abiding – would not abuse her position as queen to go before the king without invitation
• Courageous – laid her life down like Jesus to safe her people from destruction
• Wise and polite – requested the presence of Haman to a banquet; she did not throw the bombshell at the first banquet, but at the second banquet; creating unsuspecting plan to indict Haman.
• Spiritually sound – she tackled her problem through fasting and prayer. At any critical juncture in life, when severe crisis struck, you must apply fasting to your prayer, a period of earnest seeking God for intervention.
• Sacrificial – she denied her right in order to save others
However, Esther, like any other person had her own shortcoming; she overdoes her request. After the Israelites had destroyed their enemies, she requested again that Haman’s ten sons be hanged on the gallows (Esth. 9:13-14).

To whom will I liken a mother who deserves to be honored and celebrated?

The book of Proverbs chapter 31 verses 10-31 summarized it all; especially, verses 27-30, which reads
“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised”.

By Lawrence Abitogun

Learning from David’s character

Just like a coin, there are two sides to person’s character; the good characteristics and the bad ones. As a child of God, you need to emulate the good characteristics and avoid the bad ones.

Good characteristics
David as our point of reference, we need to view his character from three stages of his life; as a youth, as an adult and at old age. In this way, no one will have any reason to say I do not fit into his shoe.

As a youth – David has a strong faith and courage in the Lord
His faith added to his courage paves way and gave him the confidence to face and have victory over Goliath. 1Sam. 17:36, 45 states,
“Your servant has killed both lion and bear; and this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, seeing he has defied the armies of the living God.” Moreover, David said, “The Lord, who delivered me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear, He will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine”
As a youth, having strong faith in the Lord will boost your courage to face any new challenge. You need to think and recollect the past goodness of God in your life, this will boost your faith to a level that you will be fearless.
Youth age supposed to be a good foundation upon which to build the future. Therefore, youth must always pray for grace to rely totally on God

As an adult, David built a good relationship with God
Another of David’s characteristics is found in his relationship with God as the source of his strength; a relationship that produces positively in his life. What are the ways he built the relationship?
• He relied on God for guidance (2Sam. 2: 1; 5:19)
• His commitment to the course of God, e.g.
o his eagerness to build a temple for the Lord;
o the lavishing ceremony in bringing the Ark of the Lord to Jerusalem (2 Sam. 6:1-)
• he wrote numerous songs to praise God
• He maintained a position as a king who promotes the course of God’s kingdom above his earthly kingdom.
As an adult, you must strive and commit your ways to the course of God. This is one of the secret of David’s success; you must allow God to reign supremely over your life, total submission under His rule.
Wherever you fall as a Christian, you must always pray for grace and empowerment to submit totally for God to reign over your life. In this way, He will make you to prosper in all your ways.

At old age, he was sincere in all areas to God and man
Because of his sincerity, he was anointed as king three times: by Samuel, by men of Judah and by Israel as a whole (1Sam. 16:11-; 2Sam. 2:4; 2Sam. 5:1-). He fulfilled his vow which he made to Jonathan his friend by looking for a descendant to whom he may pay back what Jonathan had done for him. No wonder that the Lord said He has found a man after His own heart. Sincerity is acting in truthfulness, righteousness, faithfulness, honesty, integrity, fairness.
As a Christian, to gain the kingdom of God should be paramount to you than any earthly gains. A Christian must strive to hold on to these virtues. It takes spiritual empowerment to be sincere, you need to be praying every day for the grace to be.

Bad characteristics to avoid
As said earlier, there is the other side of coin. David, like all human being, had his own weaknesses, a bad trait that produces negatively in his life. All human being in one way or the other have committed one evil or the other.
David committed sin of adultery. Adultery bred lie, deceit and murder. To hide an evil, a lie is needed to sustain that evil; that lie will eventual lead to a greater evil; hence, after David laid with Bathsheba, he murdered her husband Uriah.
In another situation, because of the insensitivity of David the devil took that advantage and move against Israel; the devil made David to take sensor of Israel. An act that amount to pride against God.
Brethren, the scripture warns us in the book of 1Cor. 10:12; “Let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall”. No matter how thorough we embrace all the good qualities of a Christian, we must guide ourselves spiritually. Let us pray and strive to avoid sin by being filled with the Holy Spirit all the time. The in-filling of the Holy Spirit guides your heart from falling into the trap of the devil. We must be sensitive to every moment in our day-to-day activities so that the devil will not take advantage of our insensitivity.
One thing good about David is that he knows how to quickly run back to God and ask for forgiveness, and he would never make such mistake anymore.
Do you have the heart of David? Do you seek the things of God above your own? Are you sincere to God and man? Do you allow the spirit of God to guide you? Do you allow God to rule supremely over your life? Today is not too late. Learn a lesson from David.
Whatever we have become and what we are going to be, is not by our power, not by our knowledge, nor by man’s wisdom; but all by the spirit of God.

By Lawrence Abitogun

Category: admonition

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