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Let what pertains to you be secret to you only. Not all that is in the offing needs be revealed to another person. God’s secret for your life is to be kept to yourself. As Christians, you must not trust any one; those that you call you confidants are the one that will reveal your secret or plan to your enemy.

Samson said

“If you had not plowed with my heifer,
You would not have solved my riddle!” (Jud. 14:18b)

This proverb was said by Samson after Timnah, the wife-to-be, revealed the answer to the riddle he posed to the philistines; the philistines would not have known the answer to the riddles if Samson had not told it to his wife-to-be; and if the wife-to-be had not leaked the answer to the philistines. Who can be closer to a man than his spouse? Read the story in Judges chapter 14

Christians need to be wise when it comes to telling people about the plan of God for your life or the secret to your success. Let people see what God is doing; let them contemplate on how God did it; you are to keep doing what you have to do and keep the blueprint for your success. Does this mean you cannot share your idea with anyone? Not at all, however, be careful whom to share your secret with.

Lesson from Joseph’s unwise openness

We need to learn a lesson from Joseph’s disclosure of his dream to his brothers. Joseph’s destiny for greatness was revealed to him in a dream; however, probably because he was young or ignorant of what was revealed to him, he told it to his brothers. Because of his openness, his brothers hated him, even more, because he was the beloved of their father. You cannot be too open when it comes to what pertains to you.

As Christians, we need to be guided divinely (spiritually) before we open our mouth to utter anything to anyone. The intention of Joseph’s brother was to kill the destiny of Joseph when he was stripped and sold into slavery.

The scripture states

“Now when they saw him afar off, even before he came near them, they conspired against him to kill him. Then they said to one another, “Look, this dreamer is coming! Come therefore, let us now kill him and cast him into some pit; and we shall say, ‘Some wild beast has devoured him.’ We shall see what will become of his dreams!” (Gen. 37:18-20)

If he had told this to his father before telling his brothers, probably his father would have advised him not to tell anyone. This is one reason I advise the youth not to despise the wise counseling of their parents. Your parents will not lead you astray; seek their counseling when it gets to the point where you don’t know what to do. Decision that is not divinely guided can send someone into unprecedented captivity.

Learn a lesson from Saul

After Samuel had anointed Saul with oil according to the command of God; on his way back home, he met his uncle and they have this short dialogue:

Then Saul’s uncle said to him and his servant, “Where did you go?” So he said, “To look for the donkeys. When we saw that they were nowhere to be found, we went to Samuel.” And Saul’s uncle said, “Tell me, please, what Samuel said to you.” So Saul said to his uncle, “He told us plainly that the donkeys had been found.” But about the matter of the kingdom, he did not tell him what Samuel had said” (1Sam. 10:14-16).

In this dialogue, Saul disclosed to his uncle the obvious thing which his uncle already knew, about finding the lost donkeys. But, he did not disclose that which is still in the offing; that which is still between him and God (matter of the kingdom); and that which has not been made known; he kept it to himself. The kingship of Saul was still in the budding stage, not yet proclaimed; why should he let it out for another one who would destroy his destiny.

As Christians, when you are still in the planning stage of a project; how to bring about you dream; pressing to achieve a goal; whatever undertaking you embark upon; or even when God has revealed to you the secret for success, keep it to yourself until the fruit of that secret reveals itself.

My advice to the youth is this, not all that glitters is gold. As the wise among you are prudent in spending and they prosper in life; likewise be wise in other aspects of life’s choices. Life that seems to be rosy in the early stage of life may not be forever, because challenges are coming on the way. Be prudent in your utterances; especially in what God has endowed you. Be wise. The scripture states,

A man shall eat well by the fruit of his mouth,
But the soul of the unfaithful feeds on violence.
He who guards his mouth preserves his life,
But he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction” (Pro. 13:2-3).

By Lawrence Abitogun

The life of Samson in the Bible teaches a lesson on how youths ought to mould their lives in the will of God and not to ignore the wise counsel of their parents. Samson violated God’s guideline, ignored and disobeyed the counseling of his parents. Moreover, he did not learn from his mistake even after receiving the grace for a second chance to amend his ways. At the end, his arrogant and obstinate behavior caused the tragedy end to his life.

Every child that is born is channeled into this world through their parents. One of the responsibilities of the parents is to guide and preventing the child from walking in the way of destruction.

One area that seems to generate disagreement between youths and their parents is the area of marriage. Choosing a future partner by youth is one of those responsibilities parents need to guide their son not to fall into the hand of a Delilah type of wife; or their daughter not to fall into the hand of a worthless man. No civilization or order of the day should change this pattern of seeking spiritual and parental guidance in choosing a future wife. Many parents have counseled their children to no avail; many youths would go their own ways to satisfy their lust or/and unwise desire.

The scripture admonishes youths,

My son, hear the instruction of your father,
And do not forsake the law of your mother;
For they will be a graceful ornament on your head,
And chains about your neck (Pro. 1: 8-9).

Many marriages that failed today are the result of many youths forsaken the counseling of their parents. The parents of Samson advised him not to marry from the philistine, knowing fully that they are the enemy of Israel; but he refused and disregarded his parent’s counseling: he satisfied his own lustful desire. This action would later become a stage set for the tragedy that ends his life.

Samson said to his father,

“Get her for me, for she pleases me well.” (Jug. 14:3)

The statement that Samson made to quiet his parents is still the same statement that youths are making to give their parents no choice than to stand by them. Many parents have been subjected to sleepless vigil and silence torture of the heart.

When Samson could not be convinced, as parents, they have no choice than to support him. They followed him to visit the parents of Timnah (the first philistine woman he loved). The love affair became an occasion for the philistine (enemies) to trap and conquer him. May you never be tempted to marry someone that will become an agent to your destruction.

The occasion became Tom and Jerry affairs; enemies disguising as friends. They were celebrating as in-laws, but, the motive of the philistine was to use the occasion to capture Israel.

Many youths have become victims of ignorance of the reality of life; especially, in the area of choosing a partner for a spouse. Marriage is the beginning of another journey in life; it needs spiritual and parental guidance; it needs the counseling of someone who has the experience. Do not ignore the counseling of your parents because, they advise you based on their experience, which should be the bedrock upon which to build your new life.

To be continued

By Lawrence Abitogun

Loving God is not just mere loving as people say “I love you”; a love that will later turn out to be a deceit that will eventually lead to a kiss to death – Judas Iscariot claimed to love Christ but later betrayed Him.  Loving God is much more than an affirmation or feeling; it is obedience, loyalty and service to Him above all. 

Many Christian’s confession or affirmation of their love for God is just a mere saying; word of mouth; never tested to confirm or prove the reality of their love. This is the type of confession which Peter and other disciples made before Jesus’ arrest. What happened later? Peter and others except one, abandoned Jesus when he was nailed to the cross.

Loving God is evident in action

Loving God is not just a feeling, but must be put into action. This is exactly what James was saying

“What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead” (Jas. 2:14-17).

Loving God entails obedience

How can a Christian says he/she loves God and disobeyed His laws, disloyal or not committed to serving the Lord?

The scripture states,

“Inasmuch as these people draw near with their mouths
And honor Me with their lips,
But have removed their hearts far from Me,
And their fear toward Me is taught by the commandment of men”, (Is. 29:13).

Many Christians will deny the Christianity they professed if death is imminent for confessing that Christianity. Many will sell their confession for earthly gains. So, loving God is not just an affirmation, but it must be put into action, no matter what situation.

Loving God is total obedience to His commandments. The Lord was speaking to Moses concerning the Israelites that,

“Oh, that they (the Israelites) had such a heart in them that they would fear Me and always keep all My commandments, that it might be well with them and with their children forever!” (Deut. 5:29)

It a misconstruing of the word of God that many ministers is trying to create enmity between grace and the Lord’s commandments. Christians must obey every word of God. The grace we have received enlightened and empowered us to obey the word of God; not to contradict it. Our Lord Jesus had revealed to us the nature and character of our God; then He empowered us through the Holy Ghost to do what will please our God. The key to a successful life is obedience to the word of God.

To love God is to be loyal to Him.

To be loyal is to prove ourselves to be trustworthy – can you be entrusted with good things or can you be trusted to defend Christianity in odd situation: You must be reliable. You must be faithful to doing exactly what needs to be done, bearing in mind that you are doing the work of your Father in heaven: you must be dependable. You must be a devoted Christian who always contributes your quota to move the church of God forward; not pulling it backward. The Holy Spirit empowers us. Apostle Paul was admonishing Timothy,

“Hold fast the pattern of sound words which you have heard from me, in faith and love which are in Christ Jesus. That good thing which was committed to you, keep by the Holy Spirit who dwells in us” (2Tim. 1:13).

In summary,

Our Lord Jesus Christ said,

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” (Matt. 22:37-40)

Can you love God and hate your neighbor or your fellow Christian? Don’t you know your neighbor is created in the image of God? If you hate your neighbor, you have hate God. That amounts to partial obedience. Sincerity and obedience are the prerequisite for worship that please God. In the same vein, loyalty of heart is essential for faithful effective service. Hence, Apostle Paul said,

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies (which constitutes the heart, soul and mind) a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Rom. 12:1-2).

Love God with all your heart, soul and mind; this is the key to your blessing.


BY Lawrence Abitogun

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