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Humanity is not complete without woman. Her role has been supportive to man and the growth of the society since creation. Even though her position was reduced from that of man in the day she disobeyed and listened to the ministration of the serpent in the Garden of Eden, whereby she caused the fall of man. However, that position has improved gradually through the cause of time, and now, she has proved herself to be up to the task of her role to be partner in progress with man.

Another dilemma facing women from ages is the stigma of negativism, associating her role as being an agent of enticement, seduction, pressure and urge, capable of luring man into ensnarement. From time in memorial, man has been falling victim to a woman’s plot – Sisera and Jael (Jug. 5:24-27); Samson and Delilah (Jug. 16:19); Jezebel (2Ki. 9:30), Athaliah etc.

However, this is not true of all women. Does this erase the good works of women in our society? No, despite the relegation of women’s role in the Bible, there are many women who serve as good examples for today’s women to emulate; courageous women who boosted the courage of their husband like the virtuous women praised in the book of Proverbs 31. We have women of faith who received the fulfillment of those things which they earnestly seek from God – Sarah, Hannah, Esther, Elizabeth etc. Also are women who were obedient and true worshipers of the living God – Deborah and Dorcas.

Esther: an example of a godly woman

For any woman who is a mother to excel to the point of being respected, being equal with man, being adored; to be called a virtuous mother; a mother to be honored, a mother to be remembered, who cut above the rest, she must possess the following characteristics found in Esther.
• Humble – not proud, she associated with her people, disregarding her position as a queen. She respected the person of her husband.
• Obedient – she was obedient to her instructor and to Mordecai
• Unselfish – she would not take credit for the secret Mordecai discovered.
• Caring – a woman of great concern for the condition of her people; seeking the good and peace of others.
• Law abiding – would not abuse her position as queen to go before the king without invitation
• Courageous – laid her life down like Jesus to safe her people from destruction
• Wise and polite – requested the presence of Haman to a banquet; she did not throw the bombshell at the first banquet, but at the second banquet; creating unsuspecting plan to indict Haman.
• Spiritually sound – she tackled her problem through fasting and prayer. At any critical juncture in life, when severe crisis struck, you must apply fasting to your prayer, a period of earnest seeking God for intervention.
• Sacrificial – she denied her right in order to save others
However, Esther, like any other person had her own shortcoming; she overdoes her request. After the Israelites had destroyed their enemies, she requested again that Haman’s ten sons be hanged on the gallows (Esth. 9:13-14).

To whom will I liken a mother who deserves to be honored and celebrated?

The book of Proverbs chapter 31 verses 10-31 summarized it all; especially, verses 27-30, which reads
“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised”.

By Lawrence Abitogun

Let what pertains to you be secret to you only. Not all that is in the offing needs be revealed to another person. God’s secret for your life is to be kept to yourself. As Christians, you must not trust any one; those that you call you confidants are the one that will reveal your secret or plan to your enemy.

Samson said

“If you had not plowed with my heifer,
You would not have solved my riddle!” (Jud. 14:18b)

This proverb was said by Samson after Timnah, the wife-to-be, revealed the answer to the riddle he posed to the philistines; the philistines would not have known the answer to the riddles if Samson had not told it to his wife-to-be; and if the wife-to-be had not leaked the answer to the philistines. Who can be closer to a man than his spouse? Read the story in Judges chapter 14

Christians need to be wise when it comes to telling people about the plan of God for your life or the secret to your success. Let people see what God is doing; let them contemplate on how God did it; you are to keep doing what you have to do and keep the blueprint for your success. Does this mean you cannot share your idea with anyone? Not at all, however, be careful whom to share your secret with.

Lesson from Joseph’s unwise openness

We need to learn a lesson from Joseph’s disclosure of his dream to his brothers. Joseph’s destiny for greatness was revealed to him in a dream; however, probably because he was young or ignorant of what was revealed to him, he told it to his brothers. Because of his openness, his brothers hated him, even more, because he was the beloved of their father. You cannot be too open when it comes to what pertains to you.

As Christians, we need to be guided divinely (spiritually) before we open our mouth to utter anything to anyone. The intention of Joseph’s brother was to kill the destiny of Joseph when he was stripped and sold into slavery.

The scripture states

“Now when they saw him afar off, even before he came near them, they conspired against him to kill him. Then they said to one another, “Look, this dreamer is coming! Come therefore, let us now kill him and cast him into some pit; and we shall say, ‘Some wild beast has devoured him.’ We shall see what will become of his dreams!” (Gen. 37:18-20)

If he had told this to his father before telling his brothers, probably his father would have advised him not to tell anyone. This is one reason I advise the youth not to despise the wise counseling of their parents. Your parents will not lead you astray; seek their counseling when it gets to the point where you don’t know what to do. Decision that is not divinely guided can send someone into unprecedented captivity.

Learn a lesson from Saul

After Samuel had anointed Saul with oil according to the command of God; on his way back home, he met his uncle and they have this short dialogue:

Then Saul’s uncle said to him and his servant, “Where did you go?” So he said, “To look for the donkeys. When we saw that they were nowhere to be found, we went to Samuel.” And Saul’s uncle said, “Tell me, please, what Samuel said to you.” So Saul said to his uncle, “He told us plainly that the donkeys had been found.” But about the matter of the kingdom, he did not tell him what Samuel had said” (1Sam. 10:14-16).

In this dialogue, Saul disclosed to his uncle the obvious thing which his uncle already knew, about finding the lost donkeys. But, he did not disclose that which is still in the offing; that which is still between him and God (matter of the kingdom); and that which has not been made known; he kept it to himself. The kingship of Saul was still in the budding stage, not yet proclaimed; why should he let it out for another one who would destroy his destiny.

As Christians, when you are still in the planning stage of a project; how to bring about you dream; pressing to achieve a goal; whatever undertaking you embark upon; or even when God has revealed to you the secret for success, keep it to yourself until the fruit of that secret reveals itself.

My advice to the youth is this, not all that glitters is gold. As the wise among you are prudent in spending and they prosper in life; likewise be wise in other aspects of life’s choices. Life that seems to be rosy in the early stage of life may not be forever, because challenges are coming on the way. Be prudent in your utterances; especially in what God has endowed you. Be wise. The scripture states,

A man shall eat well by the fruit of his mouth,
But the soul of the unfaithful feeds on violence.
He who guards his mouth preserves his life,
But he who opens wide his lips shall have destruction” (Pro. 13:2-3).

By Lawrence Abitogun

The life of Samson in the Bible teaches a lesson on how youths ought to mould their lives in the will of God and not to ignore the wise counsel of their parents. Samson violated God’s guideline, ignored and disobeyed the counseling of his parents. Moreover, he did not learn from his mistake even after receiving the grace for a second chance to amend his ways. At the end, his arrogant and obstinate behavior caused the tragedy end to his life.

Every child that is born is channeled into this world through their parents. One of the responsibilities of the parents is to guide and preventing the child from walking in the way of destruction.

One area that seems to generate disagreement between youths and their parents is the area of marriage. Choosing a future partner by youth is one of those responsibilities parents need to guide their son not to fall into the hand of a Delilah type of wife; or their daughter not to fall into the hand of a worthless man. No civilization or order of the day should change this pattern of seeking spiritual and parental guidance in choosing a future wife. Many parents have counseled their children to no avail; many youths would go their own ways to satisfy their lust or/and unwise desire.

The scripture admonishes youths,

My son, hear the instruction of your father,
And do not forsake the law of your mother;
For they will be a graceful ornament on your head,
And chains about your neck (Pro. 1: 8-9).

Many marriages that failed today are the result of many youths forsaken the counseling of their parents. The parents of Samson advised him not to marry from the philistine, knowing fully that they are the enemy of Israel; but he refused and disregarded his parent’s counseling: he satisfied his own lustful desire. This action would later become a stage set for the tragedy that ends his life.

Samson said to his father,

“Get her for me, for she pleases me well.” (Jug. 14:3)

The statement that Samson made to quiet his parents is still the same statement that youths are making to give their parents no choice than to stand by them. Many parents have been subjected to sleepless vigil and silence torture of the heart.

When Samson could not be convinced, as parents, they have no choice than to support him. They followed him to visit the parents of Timnah (the first philistine woman he loved). The love affair became an occasion for the philistine (enemies) to trap and conquer him. May you never be tempted to marry someone that will become an agent to your destruction.

The occasion became Tom and Jerry affairs; enemies disguising as friends. They were celebrating as in-laws, but, the motive of the philistine was to use the occasion to capture Israel.

Many youths have become victims of ignorance of the reality of life; especially, in the area of choosing a partner for a spouse. Marriage is the beginning of another journey in life; it needs spiritual and parental guidance; it needs the counseling of someone who has the experience. Do not ignore the counseling of your parents because, they advise you based on their experience, which should be the bedrock upon which to build your new life.

To be continued

By Lawrence Abitogun

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