Category Archives: Inspirational Christian Stories

Dr. Demogio was my speech class lecturer in the University in the 1980’s. In one of the courses, “avoiding communication breakdown”, he taught us the secret to his 48-year-old marriage. He said between him and his wife that one of them must be right, and the other must be wrong in the event of an argument. He said further that eighty percent of the time they had an argument, he as the husband accepted guilt or being wrong: all for the sake of having a peaceful marriage.

This short but powerful ingredient to successful marriage explains what Apostle Paul said,

“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Eph. 5: 23-25).

The husband as the head of the house takes the lion share of every thing; leading in every thing; enduring more in every thing; and accepting more of any responsibility, right or wrong. Some wives could be stubborn and would not succumb to being at fault. Husband should take responsibility. It is not stupidity, but understanding the weakness of the other party.

In my 31 years of marriage, I have put to practice this principle, and it worked. Apostle Paul said,

“All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not” (1Cor, 10:23).

It may be lawful for you to proof your point right, however, your wife may insist to disagree with you, should that cause any quarrel. It is not expedient if the disagreement generates to fight or quarrel. Future will always proof things to be right or wrong. Why not one of you accepts to be wrong to allow peace to reign, or, why not wait to proof yourselves right. Patience, most of the time throws light to unknot what is not clear.

As Christian couple, it is not edifying to see you quarrelling or fighting on matters that need to be dialogued out with understanding. It is not edifying for your children or an outsider seeing both of you fighting. It does not even edify our faith or the name of our God by who we are called.

When Sarah became wrath, accusing Abraham concerning Hagar, who was despising Sarah because she bore Ishmael for Abraham, God spoke to Abraham to yield to Sarah’s request, to throw out the bondservant and her child. God understands Sarah’s situation, and that Abraham could bear without the maid and her son than for Sarah to cope with being despised. Understanding that Sarah, the wife, is a weaker vessel.

Avoiding communication breakdown requires a solid foundation that is built on a solid rock – Jesus. If storm comes, it stands unshaken. A storm that scatters or causes dissolution of marriage will not affect a marriage that has Jesus as its foundation. A marriage without Christ will be full of crises.

The husband has the highest responsibility to carry. He is to love the wife as Christ love the church. Christ bore our weakness, bore our reproach, washed us clean, delivered us, hides nothing from us (truth), shows us the way and gives us life. Likewise, husband should be able to do the same to the wife in order to avoid communication breakdown.

Advise to spouse

  • Try to avoid spontaneous response to one another
  • Wait a minute, consider others opinion
  • Swift to hear and slow to answer
  • Communicate daily no matter where you are
  • Stick with all disagreement until they are resolved
  • Do not blame others when mistake occurs but think together on solution
  • Do not abandon one another in any problem
  • Allow for expression of feeling to suppress emotion
  • Avoid third party in you matters

Finally, Apostle Paul said

“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband” (1Cor. 7:3).

Husband, when there is heat, remember, you are the head, like Jesus, bear the infirmity of your wife.

By Lawrence Abitogun

In the beginning, God the Father created everything necessary for the use of the man before He created him in His image. Likewise, a man who would be a father must be ready to provide for all the needs of the family. The child to be born is going to come in the likeness of the father. The contribution of the wife in the family is to support and increase what the father has.

What it means to be caring

Caring is one of the greatest characteristics of our God that I know. The word caring means to be kind, thoughtful, gentle, helpful, considerate, compassionate, concerned, loving and sensitive. A caring father who lacks any of these virtues falls short as being an imitator of God the father. Rather, I would say he is far from being a father. The Bible says,

“But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own   house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel” (1Tim 5:8).

Recurring memory of a caring father

My wife told me how she would never forget how caring her father was. Her father makes sure she never lacks anything that a girl should have. He would not wait for the mother before he takes her out to buy most of her needs.

He is a loving father who would not take his children matter with levity. The future of his children is of paramount concern to him. Most of my father-in-law’s contemporaries in his days would not send their female children beyond elementary school. However, he purposed to do whatever it takes to send my wife to school even to university level, which he did.

As an average farmer whose income is seasonal, whenever occasion calls for any expenses for the family, especially, the children school fees; he would borrow. He pays back when he sells his farm produce in harvest season. What am I saying? A Christian father must do whatever it takes to care for the family. Part of the caring is for the father to be there for the family when needed.

On the other hand, many Christian fathers today have gone the way of the world by neglecting their children for the mother alone to take care; that is wickedness. A wicked father cares about nothing except himself. They go around flashily and neglecting the children that God committed into their care.

Caring is comfort

Before God created the man, He had created

  • the light to give illumination
  • the night as resting time
  • the air/water to give life
  • the land on which man lives and to cultivate
  • the vegetation as a means for food, and
  • animals for meat and use for domestic services

All these provisions were made to satisfy man’s necessities. Likewise, it is the duty of the father, to create an atmosphere of comfort for the family.

Caring is love

God loves us; He would not leave any of His children out in the cold to attract the wolves. In the same vein, the care of a Christian father starts from his love for the family. A loving father hardly takes his eyes off from such love. Remember the father of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-24), despite all the wayward behavior of his son; he receives him back with joy. Likewise, the love of a caring father extends to being able to forgive when they err.

Caring is security

Any time I travelled, my children would be waiting eagerly for my arrival. Immediately they saw me alighting from my vehicle, they ran out to welcome me. What I read from their faces is joy and sense of security. A Christian father whose presence does not give joy to the family, that father is a terror in the family.

The Bible says that in the presence of God, there is fullness of Joy (Ps. 16:11).  In the presence of the father, every member of the family must feel a sense of security, joy, peace and happiness.

By Lawrence Abitogun


“And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, He (Jesus) went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed” (Mk. 1:3)

The above quotation refers to our Lord Jesus demonstrating the model and pattern by which a Christian can be one-on-one with God. Our Lord has the habit of going away from people to a solitary place to be alone with the Father. Likewise, Christians must learn to be alone with the Father. We must leave our comfort base, our family sphere, or our associates to a solitary place where there will be no distraction: especially, distraction by human being.

In another instance, our Lord teaches

“But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut    thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly” (Matt. 6:6).

Every prayer offered by a Christian is made to our Father in heaven and not to man. Every prayer made through a man, be a minister, sibling, or whoever the person may be is an extension of our communication line to heaven. The only intermediary and shortest distance we have is our Lord Jesus Christ; He is our direct line to the Father.

The story of Jabez is an interesting one, which demonstrates one-on-one with God. The story did not just appear in the scripture without any significance. Jabez is an example of a dejected, an outcast and a despised person who approached God one-on-one to present his case.

Why the story of Jabez stands out in the family lineage of Judah was because, Jabez approached God one-on-one basis. We were not told that anyone helped him to get out of his predicament. Jabez recognized his pitiful and reproach situation; therefore, he approached the only source of solution, God the father.

Jabez five prayer points

1. That God would bless him

2. That God would enlarge his territory

3. That God’s hand would be with him

4. That God would keep him from evil

5. That he (Jabez) would not be a source of pain.

The scripture says, God granted him what he requested (1Chro. 4:9-10). His prayer was direct and precise. He did not beat around the bush to get to the point. The five prayer points were what he needed to change his life for better, not things to satisfy any lustful desires. The tone of the prayer expresses humility, no wonder he receives that favor.

Where there no priests in the days of Jabez? Where there no diviners then or where there no people he could consult for counseling or to seek for assistance? He ignored those helpless sources and went one-on-one with God. Human help would have disappointed him anyway like the woman with the issue of blood who spent her fortune unsuccessfully for men physicians for twelve years.

On the other hand, after the spirit of God had departed from King Saul the scripture says,

“Saul enquired of the LORD, the LORD answered him not, neither by dreams, nor by Urim, nor by prophets”     (1Sam. 28:6).

Christians need to know that God would not answer the prayer of anyone who is not in good relationship with Him, or who would not trust God for His promises or who would doubt God. We need to recognize that blessing do not come from anywhere except from above. Therefore to receive from Him who is above, we must approaching Him who is above one-on-one.

You too can go one-on-one with God today and ask these same prayers that Jabez asked the Lord or that prayer that fits your situation. Without any wavering of heart, without any doubt and believing that He will not fail, the Lord will grant you the desire of your heart.

By Lawrence Abitogun

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