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Mother’s day is a celebration honoring mothers and celebrating motherhood; expressing the importance and influence of mothers in our society. Celebrating mother is a dateless celebration traced back to ancient festival, like the Greek cult to Cybele, the Roman festival of Hilaria, or the Christian Mothering Sunday celebration. However, the modern mother’s day holiday celebration was aUS invention which has no bearing with the festival of the ancient world.

InUSA, mother’s day is celebrated on the second Sunday of May. Julia Ward Howe started the proclamation of mother’s day in 1870, but did not become popular until early nineteenth century. The current holiday was created by Ann Jarvis inGrafton,West Virginiain 1908. She organized a day to raise awareness of the poor health conditions in her community, a cause she believed would be best advocated by mothers, and she called it “mother’s work Day”.

This was to accomplish her mother’s dream of making a celebration for all mothers. She pressed promoting the holiday until President Woodrow Wilson made it an official national holiday in 1914. This action show one of the characteristics of women – always finding a way to get things done.

Mother’s day is meant to reciprocate the love of a loving mother – I mean a caring and loving mother, to honor and to express appreciation for her labor.

However, Ann Jarvis was not pleased with the holiday she created because, the holiday eventually became a highly commercialized event – highest day for sales of flowers, greeting cards, restaurant visit, long distance calls; highest church attendance after Christmas Eve and Easter.

The importance of women in the existence of humanity

Humanity is not complete without woman. Her role has been supportive to man and the growth of the society since creation. Even though her position was reduced from that of man in the day she disobeyed and listened to the ministration of the serpent in the Garden of Eden, whereby she caused the fall of man. However, that position has improved gradually through the cause of time, and now, she has proved herself to be up to the task of her role to be partner in progress with man.

Another dilemma facing women from ages is the stigma of negativism, associating her role as being an agent of enticement, seduction, pressure and urge, capable of luring man into ensnarement. From time in memorial, man has been falling victim to a woman’s plot – Sisera and Jael (Jug. 5:24-27); Samson and Delilah (Jug. 16:19); Jezebel (2Ki. 9:30), Athaliah etc.

However, this is not true of all women. Does this erase the good works of women in our society? No, despite the relegation of women’s role in the Bible, there are many women who serve as good examples for today’s women to emulate; courageous women who boosted the courage of their husband like the virtuous women praised in the book of Proverbs 31. We have women of faith who received the fulfillment of those things which they earnestly seek from God – Sarah, Hannah, Esther, Elizabeth etc. Also are women who were obedient and true worshipers of the living God – Deborah and Dorcas.

Esther: an example of a good mother

For any woman who is a mother to excel to the point of being respected, being equal with man, being adored; to be called a virtuous mother; a mother to be honored, a mother to be remembered, who cut above the rest, she must possess the following characteristics found in Esther.

  • Humble – not proud, she associated with her people, disregarding her position as a queen. She respected the person of her husband.
  • Obedient – she was obedient to her instructor and to Mordecai
  • Unselfish – she would not take credit for the secret Mordecai discovered.
  • Caring – a woman of great concern for the condition of her people; seeking the good and peace of others.
  • Law abiding – would not abuse her position as queen to go before the king without invitation
  • Courageous – laid her life down like Jesus to safe her people from destruction
  • Wise and polite – requested the presence of Haman to a banquet; she did not throw the bombshell at the first banquet, but at the second banquet; creating unsuspecting plan to indict Haman.
  • Spiritually sound – she tackled her problem through fasting and prayer. At any critical juncture in life, when severe crisis struck, you must apply fasting to your prayer, a period of earnest seeking God for intervention.
  • Sacrificial – she denied her right in order to save others

However, Esther, like any other person had her own shortcoming; she overdoes her request. After the Israelites had destroyed their enemies, she requested again that Haman’s ten sons be hanged on the gallows (Esth. 9:13-14).

To whom will I liken a mother who deserves to be honored and celebrated? The book of Proverbs chapter 31 verses 10-31 summarized it all; especially, verses 27-30, which reads

“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised”.


By Lawrence Abitogun

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In the beginning, God created man first before the appearance of the wife and the children. There is no controversy that out of the man the wife was formed: and from the union of both came the children. After the divine surgery, Adam knew that a part of his body had been separated to make another whole, the wife. Therefore, they are one, even though they were separated (Gen. 2:21-25).

Logically, one rib out of eight was taken out of man to make this new separated whole, leaving seven for the man. Without any controversy, the man will be more powerful than the woman in strength, intelligence; spiritual and physical activities; and endurance in all emotional state. The Bible refers to woman as a weaker vessel (1Pet. 3:7).

In this modern jet age, the proclamation of women is that, “what a man can do a woman can do”. Nice saying. All the woman can do is to imitate or emulate, but cannot be, neither better. Woman will always trail man despite their argument. Man is the cover for the woman.

Husband as the head of the family

A family is made up of a man (husband) and a woman (wife), not the reverse as many homes are today, or the modification – civil union, according to human right movement. A home where a man is not the head fall short of God’s standard and the definition of a home. The product of such home most of the time is problematic.

Husband to love the wife

Number 1 role of the husband in a home is to love the wife (Eph. 5:25), bearing in mind that she is his second half. The Bible says

“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she       shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Gen. 2:23).

As the head of the home, he is to seek her highest good, not his own welfare or selfish desire above hers. Man should see the wife as his equal, not inferior companion: a coworker, not to denigrate her. The husband is to honor and adore her and be considerate of her.

There should not be any sexual activities out the marriage. Our body is God’s temple, to be kept holy (1Cor. 6:18-20). We need to honor and sanctify our bodies, embracing self-control for sexual purity, to avoid worldly passion for sexual immorality.

“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers   and          adulterers God will judge” (Heb. 13:4).

The home, foundation for the children

The first two years of our marriage, I was occasionally in quarrel with my wife. One day, I thought it not fit and not gainful to engage in fighting or quarreling with my wife, especially, when our children were growing up, for the sake of moral and spiritual edification. We were able to accomplish this by the special grace of God.

This has been a good foundation for the character we saw in our children today. Throughout the years they spent in elementary, high and tertiary school, we have never receive any complain or bad report on them. There was never a day we heard them using inappropriate or abusive word at anybody. Whatever happens between the husband and the wife at home forms the foundation upon which the children build upon.

Husband to love his children

Number 2 role of the husband is to love the third party of the family, the children. The upbringing of a child is a joint responsibility of husband and wife. Spouse should not separate for the sake of their children (1Cor. 7:12). The husband has the greatest responsibility not allowing separation.

As mentioned earlier, the husband is stronger in all things; therefore, he must endure the more in order to love the wife and the children. He is to create room for love, joy, peace and happiness. He must handle situations in kindly, gentle and meekly manner. He must exhibit high degree level of endurance, temperament and self-control.

Father’s regulation on the children should be reasonable, not arbitrary. A man, who provides necessities for the family and respect the wife, is also respected and loved by the children in return.

By Lawrence Abitogun

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